The four principles of gold for interpersonal communication Some sociologists have pointed out that in many families, the main reason for couples quarrelling may be who is not willing to accept who, does not know how to appreciate each other, can not see the other is good, I am afraid that colleagues and friends are also very important the reason.
There is no idol, no appreciation of others, less cooperation, and more calculations. As a result, everyone is not happy. The famous "Prisoner's Dilemma" inference in game theory tells us that in most cases, the cooperation between the two sides is better than the two sides betrayed. The key to doing well is not to conquer each other, but to guide cooperation. In a word, cooperation is better than betrayal. The "four principles of gold" that are believed to be invincible are based on this foundation.
Telling others who you are between people is blurry for the benefit of the aesthetic, and clarity is good for cooperation. Objectively speaking, people-to-people exchanges have some reasons, either on the table or inside. The reasons for these reasons are all cooperation. Business communication is a kind of cooperation. Getting rid of loneliness is also a kind of cooperation. Even revenge is on you. The cooperation can only be fulfilled.
The basis of cooperation is resources. If you don't have the resources (resources, power, beauty, talent, personality, kindness, etc.) that the other person needs, don't expect the other person to treat you proactively and lastingly. In fact, we are also like this. What you care about will appeal to you.
In order to cooperate well with others and give ourselves more opportunities, we must clearly and clearly express our own resources and the principles of being a man. The so-called “ugly words are at the front†is to make everyone aware of your principles. You can't lose what you can't lose. The more clearly your principles are expressed, the more others will know what to do to you. Just as leaders must respect everyone, it's not a bad thing to show that the strong side of personality is. It turns out, This is more conducive to long-term cooperation, but also more fair, just like athletes must be allowed to know the rules of the game before the game, in this sense that the fire is safer than water, because people know that the fire is severe and cautious However, it is difficult for people to feel awe in water, which makes it easier for people to make mistakes in the water.
Learning to appreciate Anthony, the success scientist, points out that the first step to success is to save a grateful heart, to be grateful for your current situation, and to have respect and gratitude for what others have done for you. If you accept the favors of others, whether gifts, advice, or help, and you are smart enough, you should take the time and express your thanks to the other person.
One of the leaders’ responsibilities is thanks. “The elected leaders always have to give some time to thank people or organizations that once supported and helped them. Otherwise, he can’t be continued and even more. With more support, people who cross the river to remove the bridge are not far away.
Numerous facts have proven that the timely return of the goodwill of others and the unyielding success of others will not only win necessary and powerful support, but also avoid unnecessary troubles. To be aggressive is not only difficult to make oneself “see and think†and to be open-minded, but also affects one’s own mood and external image. What’s more, this will cause one to lose allies and potential opportunities and even establish itself. Strong enemies - because generally speaking, people who are desecrated by others should not be weak, and they will not be too polite to you.
How do you treat others and how others will treat you.
A passer-by asked the way to the gas station and asked how the people in front of the town were. The gas station's staff opposed the town where he had lived. The passer-by answered "worry." The staff member then said, "We have the same people in this town." Then, the second person came by car and asked the same question. When the driver answered that they were very friendly, the staff said, "We The people in the town are exactly the same."
Interpersonal relationship is a kind relationship. People are three-pointed, seven-feeling animals. When a person dies for a friend, the practitioner can do his best for the supervisor who recognizes his existence. "Giving will be given, deprivation will be deprived, trust will be trusted, suspicion will be suspected. Love will be loved and hatred will be hated."
Behavioral behavior, you are kind to me, I am also kind to you, if you are not friendly to me, I can not treat you friendly - this is the law of reciprocal psychology.
If you have information that is useful to others and does not communicate with others, then you will find something interesting, and neither does the information that others have available to you nor tell you.
Helping others is also helping you. Emerson said: One of the most beautiful compensations in life is that after people sincerely help others, they also help themselves. Extend your hand to help others instead of extending your feet to trip them. A person who is good at doing things with one heart and one mind may have some blood, but the victory finally belongs to him.
Habits such as killing China have an old saying, called "usually killing children". This sentence is used for human relationships and international relations. Traditional Chinese Ethical Education We must be gentlemen to be gentlemen, and we should not be generally familiar with the villain. But the problem is that you are a gentleman. He may not be a gentleman. You are tolerant. He may not be tolerant. You may not be generally knowledgeable to him. He may not find your jealousy. Being a man should not be too wishful, wishful thinking is a subjective approach, a humble arrogance.
The result of blindly escaping provocateurs and violators is often the villain's ambition, and the gentleman suffers. It's like being in a room, you are panting, but someone is sitting next to you and it's so kind of smoking. If you don't tell him how you feel, you have to walk away; if you can't walk, you have to endure. Going down, smokers will never appreciate your "tolerance." You are helping him to develop habits and personalities that disregard the feelings of others. You harmed him by harming yourself, because one must pay for the deficiencies of character sooner or later.
Having tolerance is the result, not the premise. Tolerating the enemy means killing oneself and cruelty. Compassion may be helpful to some people, but it may be bad for some people. Compassion must vary from person to person, and we must not treat everyone with the same compassion. One hundred people have one hundred appearances, so they must be treated with one hundred degrees of mercy.
We advocate cooperation, but we are not afraid of conflict. And often, we will make further progress in conflicts. In the era of change, conflicts are inevitable, and we must learn to mature and grow in conflicts. People are buoyant with contradictions.
Everything is focused on the future just as if the girl needs to be sincere (sincerely means spending time and having patience) to pursue it. The relationship of deeds needs some endurance. In this sense, tolerance is patience and it is a second chance. Even if there has been a betrayal or offense, as long as it is not a grievance, it is necessary to focus on the future and give the other person a chance to correct (but only give them a chance), thus helping to re-engage.
In fact, this kind of opportunity is often given to oneself. It is as if they are ridiculous, short-sighted, and unintentionally offensive. Others can also be forgiven. However, the same mistakes can only be committed once. It can be confirmed once, but it is impossible. Unintentionally, if you are not mentally handicapped, at least it means that he does not care about what you said, and does not care about what you said. It really means you do not care.
"The spiritual path and the destiny of mankind go through all the people. There is very little chance that all people do not have the chance to survive." Tolerance has a kind of superficial power that makes people unconsciously absorb each other's nutrition. It is thus powerful.
"The weak will be cruel, and the strong ones know how to be gentle." It is an art of thinking to get along with people who are different from others. Only the strong will be forgiving. The basis for tolerance is strong, self-confidence, and not easily hurt.
Learn to be wrong with people. Before you give someone a second chance, be sure to tell yourself that something is wrong, not a mistake. Then you can give him a complete opportunity.
Never be in direct conflict with people, forever! If you hurt people, never talk about exports. Leave room for both parties. Play chess and talk about aftertaste, and be a person. Don't forget that the room you left for others is also left to you.
Making the future look more important than now is also conducive to promoting cooperation. In the old saying, there is no effort without hope, and there is no livelihood without dreams. Most of the successful leaders are good at attracting followers with brilliant prospects. They instill a belief in their followers and convince them of their own opinions, personalities, and ideas for the future. In the same way, in order to make people happy to cooperate with you, you also need to use the prospect of cooperation to inspire each other and go to the brightest place together.
"The future is now looking forward to." Tell your lover, your family, your friends, tell them who you are, tell them what you want, tell them that you need their help, and tell them that your dream will also light up their night sky. Then hope together, wait together, climb together, and watch the sunrise together.
There is no idol, no appreciation of others, less cooperation, and more calculations. As a result, everyone is not happy. The famous "Prisoner's Dilemma" inference in game theory tells us that in most cases, the cooperation between the two sides is better than the two sides betrayed. The key to doing well is not to conquer each other, but to guide cooperation. In a word, cooperation is better than betrayal. The "four principles of gold" that are believed to be invincible are based on this foundation.
Telling others who you are between people is blurry for the benefit of the aesthetic, and clarity is good for cooperation. Objectively speaking, people-to-people exchanges have some reasons, either on the table or inside. The reasons for these reasons are all cooperation. Business communication is a kind of cooperation. Getting rid of loneliness is also a kind of cooperation. Even revenge is on you. The cooperation can only be fulfilled.
The basis of cooperation is resources. If you don't have the resources (resources, power, beauty, talent, personality, kindness, etc.) that the other person needs, don't expect the other person to treat you proactively and lastingly. In fact, we are also like this. What you care about will appeal to you.
In order to cooperate well with others and give ourselves more opportunities, we must clearly and clearly express our own resources and the principles of being a man. The so-called “ugly words are at the front†is to make everyone aware of your principles. You can't lose what you can't lose. The more clearly your principles are expressed, the more others will know what to do to you. Just as leaders must respect everyone, it's not a bad thing to show that the strong side of personality is. It turns out, This is more conducive to long-term cooperation, but also more fair, just like athletes must be allowed to know the rules of the game before the game, in this sense that the fire is safer than water, because people know that the fire is severe and cautious However, it is difficult for people to feel awe in water, which makes it easier for people to make mistakes in the water.
Learning to appreciate Anthony, the success scientist, points out that the first step to success is to save a grateful heart, to be grateful for your current situation, and to have respect and gratitude for what others have done for you. If you accept the favors of others, whether gifts, advice, or help, and you are smart enough, you should take the time and express your thanks to the other person.
One of the leaders’ responsibilities is thanks. “The elected leaders always have to give some time to thank people or organizations that once supported and helped them. Otherwise, he can’t be continued and even more. With more support, people who cross the river to remove the bridge are not far away.
Numerous facts have proven that the timely return of the goodwill of others and the unyielding success of others will not only win necessary and powerful support, but also avoid unnecessary troubles. To be aggressive is not only difficult to make oneself “see and think†and to be open-minded, but also affects one’s own mood and external image. What’s more, this will cause one to lose allies and potential opportunities and even establish itself. Strong enemies - because generally speaking, people who are desecrated by others should not be weak, and they will not be too polite to you.
How do you treat others and how others will treat you.
A passer-by asked the way to the gas station and asked how the people in front of the town were. The gas station's staff opposed the town where he had lived. The passer-by answered "worry." The staff member then said, "We have the same people in this town." Then, the second person came by car and asked the same question. When the driver answered that they were very friendly, the staff said, "We The people in the town are exactly the same."
Interpersonal relationship is a kind relationship. People are three-pointed, seven-feeling animals. When a person dies for a friend, the practitioner can do his best for the supervisor who recognizes his existence. "Giving will be given, deprivation will be deprived, trust will be trusted, suspicion will be suspected. Love will be loved and hatred will be hated."
Behavioral behavior, you are kind to me, I am also kind to you, if you are not friendly to me, I can not treat you friendly - this is the law of reciprocal psychology.
If you have information that is useful to others and does not communicate with others, then you will find something interesting, and neither does the information that others have available to you nor tell you.
Helping others is also helping you. Emerson said: One of the most beautiful compensations in life is that after people sincerely help others, they also help themselves. Extend your hand to help others instead of extending your feet to trip them. A person who is good at doing things with one heart and one mind may have some blood, but the victory finally belongs to him.
Habits such as killing China have an old saying, called "usually killing children". This sentence is used for human relationships and international relations. Traditional Chinese Ethical Education We must be gentlemen to be gentlemen, and we should not be generally familiar with the villain. But the problem is that you are a gentleman. He may not be a gentleman. You are tolerant. He may not be tolerant. You may not be generally knowledgeable to him. He may not find your jealousy. Being a man should not be too wishful, wishful thinking is a subjective approach, a humble arrogance.
The result of blindly escaping provocateurs and violators is often the villain's ambition, and the gentleman suffers. It's like being in a room, you are panting, but someone is sitting next to you and it's so kind of smoking. If you don't tell him how you feel, you have to walk away; if you can't walk, you have to endure. Going down, smokers will never appreciate your "tolerance." You are helping him to develop habits and personalities that disregard the feelings of others. You harmed him by harming yourself, because one must pay for the deficiencies of character sooner or later.
Having tolerance is the result, not the premise. Tolerating the enemy means killing oneself and cruelty. Compassion may be helpful to some people, but it may be bad for some people. Compassion must vary from person to person, and we must not treat everyone with the same compassion. One hundred people have one hundred appearances, so they must be treated with one hundred degrees of mercy.
We advocate cooperation, but we are not afraid of conflict. And often, we will make further progress in conflicts. In the era of change, conflicts are inevitable, and we must learn to mature and grow in conflicts. People are buoyant with contradictions.
Everything is focused on the future just as if the girl needs to be sincere (sincerely means spending time and having patience) to pursue it. The relationship of deeds needs some endurance. In this sense, tolerance is patience and it is a second chance. Even if there has been a betrayal or offense, as long as it is not a grievance, it is necessary to focus on the future and give the other person a chance to correct (but only give them a chance), thus helping to re-engage.
In fact, this kind of opportunity is often given to oneself. It is as if they are ridiculous, short-sighted, and unintentionally offensive. Others can also be forgiven. However, the same mistakes can only be committed once. It can be confirmed once, but it is impossible. Unintentionally, if you are not mentally handicapped, at least it means that he does not care about what you said, and does not care about what you said. It really means you do not care.
"The spiritual path and the destiny of mankind go through all the people. There is very little chance that all people do not have the chance to survive." Tolerance has a kind of superficial power that makes people unconsciously absorb each other's nutrition. It is thus powerful.
"The weak will be cruel, and the strong ones know how to be gentle." It is an art of thinking to get along with people who are different from others. Only the strong will be forgiving. The basis for tolerance is strong, self-confidence, and not easily hurt.
Learn to be wrong with people. Before you give someone a second chance, be sure to tell yourself that something is wrong, not a mistake. Then you can give him a complete opportunity.
Never be in direct conflict with people, forever! If you hurt people, never talk about exports. Leave room for both parties. Play chess and talk about aftertaste, and be a person. Don't forget that the room you left for others is also left to you.
Making the future look more important than now is also conducive to promoting cooperation. In the old saying, there is no effort without hope, and there is no livelihood without dreams. Most of the successful leaders are good at attracting followers with brilliant prospects. They instill a belief in their followers and convince them of their own opinions, personalities, and ideas for the future. In the same way, in order to make people happy to cooperate with you, you also need to use the prospect of cooperation to inspire each other and go to the brightest place together.
"The future is now looking forward to." Tell your lover, your family, your friends, tell them who you are, tell them what you want, tell them that you need their help, and tell them that your dream will also light up their night sky. Then hope together, wait together, climb together, and watch the sunrise together.